He wasn’t inmortal

For the last ten years I have heard the same line over and over again about my aunt's husband: "He wont last longer than a month or a week" or "He may day tonight"... He was very sick, but years pass and he was still alive... It didnt look like he was ready to go.

This morning he passed away. Peacefully at his home with his wife (my aunt), his 2 daughters and son (my cousins) and my mom. Hubby and I went to see him yesterday, and we are really happy we did.

He will be truly missed... Rest In Peace, Uncle Nicolas (Tio Colá, as I used to call him).

Grandpa Edilio 1914-2009

Today was my grandpa's viewing and we were all very sad... At 3pm a mass was held, and after the mass my mom and then my uncle said a few words... My mom is not the person that you will usually see talking about her feelings and it was very touchy to hear her talking about how she lost "her baby". He was truly her baby as she was her primary caretaker, and he wasnt able to talk, was in diapers, needed 24/7 assistance, and my mom slept by his side for the last 9.5 months since he moved to her house.

My grandfather was an exceptional person, and all the people that were there couldnt agree more with my mom and uncle words about how any of us have ever met a person like him. He was a very tolerant man than never say a word to hurt a person, that always knew when to talk and what were the right words to say. Nobody ever heard hateful words from his mouth, and even in hard times he never ever complained about anything...

He was over 80 years old when he was still working on his own business and making his own money... My uncles, aunt and mom begged him for years to move to his town and to take care of him, but he always refused and continued working until he couldnt say no anymore... It was around 10 years ago when they convinced him and move him to this town in an apartment...

At that moment he had no real illness except for mild hearing loss because of the age, but always having smart things to say about everything that you said... He was also a very healthy person and he walked and walked and walked on the city that he was living until he move to this town to EVERY PLACE he needed to go... No cars, no nothing... Walking was his best friend, which kept him VERY healthy his whole life...

He was the kind of person that didnt had ANY difference with people doesnt matter the color of the skin, religion or social status... He treated the same to the President and to the kid cleaning shoes in the streets... And it was truly like that.... He always had a smile on his face, and was an exceptional grandfather and dad... I dont think there is one person in the world that ever met him that wasnt touched by him somehow...

The Flowers with my grandpa:

Gaby, my cousin Vanessa (Mimi's Godmother) and my grandpa:

My grandpa with 5 of his kids (my mom is the one in yellow)... There are 3 sons missing on the photo.. One passed away, and the other two couldnt be present that night.....

Here he is with my cousin Michel.. I totally love his face on this photo:

Grandpa Edilio: I love you with all my heart and I will never forget your smile and how much you touched my life... You will be truly missed and I will try to be more like you everyday!

Im heartbroken

One online friend (from Mia's birth board) after 10 months of battling cancer passed away on Monday. Words cant express how sad I feel. She had two boys, a loving husband, and she was an amazing woman.

Here is what she wrote to her online friends just two months ago, after receiving lots of donations:

Hello to many of my dear friends from BBC!

First, a special thank you to all of you who participated in sending me the donation! A little while ago learned of it through Trey and was in shock and disbelief at the amount of you who participated! So many of you ladies have opened your hearts to me as I've battled through this awful cancer and I've cried many tears knowing that my "invisible friends" care so much about me. If you care this much for me, I can only imagine how caring you all are to your friends and families! So thank you, from the bottom of my and my family's heart! A special thank you to Trey for arranging it and getting the money to me - what a great host she really is!

Secondly, to let you know where I am at......
I think Trey let many of you know that over a month ago, I learned that my cancer was incurable. Well, I haven't let that get me down. At first, it was devastating, but I decided that it was my will power that was going to decide ultimately how I would live my life so I decided to give it all that I've got. I am on a pain pump, which has helped loads with the pain. I basically don't have any! The only pain I have is in my right leg - one, because I have a blood clot there and two, I have had pain in my right hip for months - probably cancer related, but I'm working through it. The pump is annoying though - it goes through a "pick line" in my arm and I wear a kind of fanny pack where the the pump is around my waist. I think it's part of what's holding me back - I just don't feel the same having to wear it, but I'm trying to get used to it. It's better than being in pain! My ultimate goal is to not need it anymore! I am working on getting a new doctor - the one I have is a complete jerk. He's basically written me off, so my hospice nurse is working hard on getting him replaced. He is toxic for my healing, so he's got to get the boot! My Mom and Mother in Law take turns coming during the week to help me out with Griffin - he is 35 lbs now and while I still help in taking care of him, I can't handle everything, so they help me with him and some of the housework. It's nice to have there company! My mom is succumbing to her depression though, so I am currently working on getting her replaced with a nanny. It's hard, but it needs to be done, so my mom can focus on feeling better. Beyond that, I don't get out much, but I am enjoying each and every day that I have! I would like to start writing letters to everyone that is important in my life - a big undertaking, but I wan't to do it while I still feel well. I also have a goal of writing birthday cards for my sons for each birthday from now to their 18th. My mom's BF went out and purchased the cards for me - I just need to do it.
Well, if you got this far - thanks for reading my novel. Many blessings to you all again, I've really missed being on baby center and hope to get on here on a regular basis again. Thank you once again to those of you donated....it meant the world to me!

Much love,

Jill

Here is a picture of her and her family from her siggy:

Jill: I never met you in person, but you will be truly missed!!